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Can I possibly remember how many things I thought I needed that I would have been better off without?
Can I possibly imagine how different my life would be if all my wishes had come true?
In medicine, the cures are often more painful than the afflictions. Life is no different.
A New York Times article last month highlighted suicide clusters among Palo Alto high school students over the past few years. Many believe the reason lies in mixed messages from parents who tell their children to do their best and be happy, but who clearly won’t be happy themselves if their children’s best doesn’t get them into Ivy League universities.
Dr. Glenn McGee, the district superintendent, thinks that parents don’t get it. “My job is not to get you into Stanford,” he said he tells parents and students. “It’s to teach them to learn how to learn, to think, to work together — learn how to explore, collaborate, learn to be curious and creative.”
But the pressure to compete and perform remains. During this past school year, three boys laid down on local train tracks and took their own lives. Their parents’ words of assurance couldn’t offset the pressure of uncompromising expectations.
Indeed, one wonders whether Dr. McGee gets it himself. “Can we put sensors up there?” he wonders, suggesting some sort of system to alert the train operators. “This is Silicon Valley. There ought to be something we can do.”
But the solution isn’t to monitor the train tracks. As the old cliche goes, you don’t save people from falling of a cliff by putting an ambulance down in the valley.
The only answer is to change the culture so that success is measured not by standardized test scores and status but by cultivating individual talents and the attitudes that contribute to a healthy society. When parents make it their mission to fulfill each child’s unique potential — and not to satisfy their own dreams — then children are likely not only to meet parents’ expectations but to exceed them.
Doctors can’t tell you much about migraines. According to Healthline.com, a partial list of triggers includes lack of sleep, caffeine, foods, food additives, hunger, dehydration, alcohol, strong odors, bright lights, loud sounds, weather change, exercise, hormones and — my personal favorite — stress.
At their best, migraines will interrupt my sleep several times a night. At their worst, they shoot burning needles of agony into my brain for 14 hours straight until I finally pass out from exhaustion.
I’ve dealt with migraines for about a quarter century now. During my last series, a new neurosurgeon put me on steroids to relax my muscles, a regimen that prevents headache Armageddon while allowing the cycle to slowly run its course.
It’s working, mostly, for which I’m enormously grateful. But not without a curious side-effect.
Now I’m too relaxed.